A Meaningful Career Choice: Understanding Strengths and Limitations

Most of us know someone who’s at a career crossroad, whether it’s the freshly minted graduate, the neighbor who’s struggling to reinvent himself after being “downsized,” or the former retiree whose post-recession nest egg seems to have shrunk from ostrich size to that of a hummingbird.

At any age, it can be challenging to discover our individual aptitudes and abilities, much less find a career to match them.  This process certainly has been difficult for me.  Every job entails an element of drudgery and frustration; the challenge is to make it as enjoyable and meaningful as possible.

Ghana photoIn my book Seeing More Colors:  A Guide to a Richer Life, one of the recurring themes is that we can create and shape our own realities.  Authentic power comes not from what we are doing, but how we are doing it.  Although some occupations might appear more significant than others, there are ways to make any type of work feel more meaningful.

An illustration:  Two bricklayers in fourteenth-century France were working on the side of the road.  When a traveler stopped to inquire what they were doing, one replied, “I am working with bricks.”  The other proudly stated, “I am building a cathedral!”

In addition, if we have an accurate understanding of our individual strengths and limitations, we are more likely to benefit from realistic expectations and the presence of mind to adjust when situations do not turn out as anticipated.  During my psychiatry rotation in medical school, my expectations were unrealistic.  I enjoyed interacting with patients and felt as if I truly was connecting with them.  Unfortunately, behavior patterns do not alter dramatically overnight.  Despite several therapy sessions with my patients, what I had thought were my brilliant insights did not always results in significant life changes for them.  I found myself frustrated by the lack of immediate, tangible results.  My expectations did not match reality.

Eventually, I realized that psychiatric treatment was typically a long process and that I did not have the patience to wait for the anticipated outcomes.  Consequently, I turned to orthopedic surgery, primarily because an immediate tangible result was the rule rather than the exception.  A wrist was broken and I could set it; a joint became worn out and I could replace it.  Furthermore, I could continue to utilize my interest in people and their behavior.  I became more aware of my false expectations and limitations, and was therefore able to make a better-informed career decision.

Each of us has a certain skill set.  Ghana photoAuthor Gary Zukav elaborates upon this idea in Soul Stories:  “Some people have hunches, others ideas, some hear music, others see pictures, some hear words.  You can find your way by paying attention to what is inside you.”

Impromptu Visits with Friends: A Lost Art

During my childhood years, in the afternoon after school, I would go from house to house, rouse friends, and we would play our own variations of baseball, football, and cowboys and Indians. This typically took place in our front yards and in the street. In retrospect, I am not certain how much our neighbors appreciated their favorite bushes being designated as second base or a touchdown. However, in the process, we exercised our abilities to create our own fun. We would play all afternoon, and would spontaneously be invited to dinner at which ever homes we randomly would arrive at when it became dark.

How often do you hear of adults—or even children– just dropping in on one another now?  While “being neighborly” used to mean social calls with friends, now, for many in the United States, it often means respecting their privacy and leaving them alone.

Photo by Michael S. Lewis, M.D.A few years ago, a study comparing relative levels of satisfaction in different countries was published; both Ghana and the United States were included.  Although its per capita income is a fraction of that in the United States, Ghana was higher on the satisfaction scale.  I happened to be training a Ghanaian resident physician at the time, and I asked him for an explanation.  He responded by relating a recent phone call that he had received from a friend back home.  His friend inquired, “Is it really true that before you visit someone in the United States, you must call them first to get permission?”  When the resident answered in the affirmative, his friend replied, “You must come home immediately.  How can you live in such a place?”

The one exception to this “leave them alone” philosophy in our culture comes in a time of crisis, when, thank goodness, friends usually can be counted upon for support.

But why do we only need to reach out in a crisis?  In my book Seeing More Colors:  A Guide to a Richer Life, I share a quote from Eli Wiesel, who write in Against Silence, “Popular belief has it that true friendship can be ascertained only in time of need.  Not so; in happiness you will recognize your true friends.  They will not be envious.  You will usually find friends to feel sorry for you but rare are those who feel happy simply because you are happy.”

Among life’s great pleasures is celebrating with friends and, when rejoicing with them, I often think of Wiesel’s words.  Remembering the positive energy that I have felt from friends on my own happy occasions, I always attempt to fully participate in the joy of their special events.  We should exercise our capacity for celebration.

Everybody Can Be Great: Service to Others and the Himalayan Cataract Project

An early chapter in my book Seeing More Colors:  A Guide to a Richer Life deals with the theme of focusing beyond oneself, a theme familiar to today’s students who aspire to build a strong high school or college resume and are told to build a list of community service activities to impress admissions committees.  While many students might view this “requirement” in the same vein as SAT preparation or essay writing, there are a number who are surprised and delighted by the connection they forge with the people they serve, and they come away with a lifelong intention to help others, whether through occupational choice or charitable work.  In this sense, admissions expectations are a gift.  Here’s why.

Seeing More ColorsAbraham Maslow, professor of psychology and my source of inspiration for Seeing More Colors, observed that all “self-actualized” people—those role models whom we most admire—have a mission in life which focuses on problems outside of themselves.  Feeling blessed with an abundance of personal gifts, they are generous toward others and desire to create an environment in which others can thrive.  This includes finding a vocation that gives one the opportunity to make the world a better place.  It is important to remember that each of us has a certain skill set with which we can make a unique contribution.

Self-actualized people know that one’ life is a gift to be shared.  They devote themselves to making the world better for others.  Geoffrey Tabin’s work exemplifies this principle.  Dr. Tabin is co-founder, along with Dr. Sanduk Ruit from Nepal, of the Himalayan Cataract Project, an organization with the goal of eradicating preventable blindness worldwide.  He not only performs surgery, but also teaches local doctors and nurses cataract surgery techniques.  Together they have returned sight to more than five hundred thousand people.  I was most fortunate to accompany Dr. Tabin to Ghana in 2007.  During that two-week visit, he and his team performed more than four hundred cataract surgeries.  People from remote areas, with little or no access to health care, underwent surgery, then were fed and housed overnight before being re-examined the next morning, all for no charge to them.  People who had been blind or who had had minimal vision were able to walk away unaided, excited at the prospect of seeing their children and grandchildren—sometimes for the first time.

Himalayan Cataract ProjectThe literature of positive psychology presents several studies that show that helping others increases one’s likelihood of leading a more satisfying life.  It’s a win-win situation.  The more one gives, the more one receives.  With this in mind, I donate the profits from the sale of my books, Seeing More Colors:  A Guide to a Richer Life, One World:  A View of Seven Continents, and Eagle Eyes, to the Himalayan Cataract Project.

As Martin Luther King, Jr. often preached, “Everybody can be great, because anybody can serve.  You only need a heart full of grace, a soul generated by love.”

A More Rewarding Life

A more rewarding life.

It’s a goal that many of us set for ourselves. Yet we all experience difficulties and emotional traumas in our lives—health or financial issues, challenges with family and friends, uncertain futures—that can distract us from that goal.

How to increase the likelihood of a more satisfying life?

That’s why I created Seeing More Colors.  

My personal inspiration comes from the teachings of Abraham Maslow, often called the father of modern psychology. I met him in the 1960s while attending Brandeis University, and he became a mentor to me. Maslow’s approach to psychology was simple, yet revolutionary, and it is still relevant today, 40 years after his death.

By studying those people we most admire, Maslow identified the shared characteristics that made them successful; among them are appreciating the moment, focusing beyond oneself, and cultivating a sense of humor. For the past 50 years, I have thought about Abraham Maslow’s ideas every day. They have guided me through difficult times, enhanced my moments of greatest joy, and transformed my life.

Seeing More Colors is illustrated by my travel photographs from 7 continents, and framed by stories from my work as an orthopedic consultant to basketball’s Chicago Bulls (during their world championship seasons) and baseball’s Chicago White Sox. Each chapter elaborates on one of Maslow’s characteristics, and every page includes a story or a quotation that has had a profound influence on me.

I hope you enjoy Seeing More Colors—it’s a wonderful gift to yourself (and to friends and family as well)!